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Powerful Exercise For Releasing Old Blocks/Traumas

In the previous post there is a link to a chart that is useful for getting yourself to think about and track what you are feeling in terms of the 38 Bach Remedies.  It can also be used as part of a powerful exercise for releasing old traumas and negative experiences that may continue to affect us (on some level) to this day, as I will describe below.  If you are well versed in the Bach Remedies you can certainly forgo the chart, but even expert users might find it useful in terms of a simple exercise/technique that can help greatly speed up the process of change within us.

Basically, since the Bach Remedies help us to deal with and overcome various negative emotions and thought patterns, we can use them to overcome specific past traumas and various old thought patterns/habits/false conclusions that negatively affect us to this day.  This technique partially involves taking the Bach Remedies themselves at various points (when feeling a strong corresponding negative-emotion during the process), but more specifically has to do with understanding the mental framework of them that Dr. Bach laid out.  Namely, the positive and negative aspects of each Bach Remedy state, and the understanding that our best and true self is the living embodiment of all the positive aspects of those Bach Remedy states.

Usually, Bach Remedy treatment is done in the moment, focusing on what we are feeling now.  But old events and traumas can linger within us for ages–since our brain doesn’t seem to automatically realize that months and years have passed since the initial incident occurred.  It is like those events are timeless or always with us in the here and now (even if only at a low level), despite the fact that things have changed and that time has passed and that our environment and everything else is now somewhat different than it used to be.

So, long story short, by mentally reliving these old experiences in a controlled way–and taking or thinking about the corresponding Bach Remedies–we can begin to release the impact of these old feelings and occurrences once and for all, while gaining a new understanding and perspective on what has occurred to us.  The key is to differentiate between thinking back on the experience and allowing ourselves to mentally reexperience those same emotions and feelings that we once did, as if we were acting them out in our head.

Here is the technique, before I get too far into discussing the details of it:

  1. Think back on a certain period or experience in your life.  But just don’t think about it, emotionally try to call forth what you felt and experience it as if you were back in that time period.
  2. Using the chart (in the post below) or just mentally visualizing something like it, think/re-live how you felt and acted in terms of each of the 38 Bach Remedies, starting with Agrimony (or whichever one you choose) and working through each and every one of them.  Combine this rethinking/reliving of the experience with the mental analysis of where on the Bach scale for this particular Bach Remedy this experience fell.
  3. Mentally “acknowledge” or realize that so and so behavior/reaction/emotion was an expression of a negative or positive Bach Remedy state, mentally marking it on the chart where it would go–say halfway down the negative bar on the chart, or perhaps all of the way down, depending on the severity.  Also know that you are ultimately all things positive-Bach, so any negative emotions/reactions/etc were in fact simply negative states that did not represent the real and best you, and therefore can be understood as being unfortunate things to have endured.
  4. Repeat for each Bach Remedy state, and repeat for different stressful or emotionally challenging periods of your life.  You can do this for periods of time large and small, and for specific one time incidents or events that were hurtful or that seem to stick out in your memory or that you feel affected you ever since.  Even positive states and events can be evaluated the same way, and can be great for allowing you to feel when you were in top form, happy, selfless, etc, and help to bring that feeling back into your current experience.
  5. The more time periods and events you can tackle with this method, the freer you become in the present state to manifest the positive aspects of all 38 Bach Remedy states.  Of course, this means the happier, more functional, more caring, loving, generous, intelligent, and kind person you can become!

 

That is also where the chart in the post below can come in handy.  I say this because it’s easy to think about the overriding or dominant feelings that go along with past periods in our lives, and various experiences we’ve had at different times–like how we may have felt super depressed during high school, or devastated after the death of a loved one.  But it can be harder to think of how we tended to approach things in general or reacted in various situations when we were younger, and how we felt in other more mundane aspects of our lives at various points in time or during stressful and emotionally painful times.  So the chart can be helpful by using it to systematically go through and force ourselves to think one at a time about how we felt and acted in terms of each of the 38 Bach Remedy states of mind during stressful or painful periods in our lives.

Most critically, this process works by allowing ourselves to mentally and emotionally reexperience what we went through–bringing for the negative emotion–while examining that particular experience under the lens of a specific Bach mental state.  By doing this we can bring up long-forgotten aspects of the original experience that might still be affecting us on some level, and then simultaneously release them.

By bringing in this new perspective while emotionally feeling/experiencing these old events, we give ourselves the ability to emotionally release the attached pain/sorrow/negative reaction simply by seeing where it falls, objectively, in terms of the 38 Bach Remedy states.

I am guessing this works by bringing up an old emotional memory (which research has shown allows memories to be changed) while automatically bringing in the rational/higher-level brain functions that can rewrite the experience in terms of our new understanding and current level of emotional wellbeing.  That’s why the chart is also helpful, by mentally making this experience/exercise one where there is a strong visual reminder to keep that objective and inquisitive part of our brain in the lead, as opposed to potentially getting lost in whatever strong negative (or positive) experiences/emotions that happen to come up while thinking about a past experience.

By doing this exercise, it’s like we are mentally reexamining ourselves objectively on the Bach Remedy scale, and we can compartmentalize and make sense of the old negative experiences by placing them on the chart under the light of a new understanding of what we experienced.  So, for example, high emotional trauma/sadness could be mentally marked on the Star of Bethlehem or Sweet Chestnut sections of the chart, taking the free-flowing and potentially all-encompassing emotion out of the associated negative experience and placing it neatly on its place on the chart.  This process changes the understanding of the experience on a fundamental level, by evaluating it in an objective fashion, and seeing (and knowing) how it represented something other than our true and best self (being a negative Bach-emotion, after all).  This mental process channels and releases the underlying emotion and frees our current selves of the associated underlying feelings, beliefs, and mannerisms that we hold onto from those old events.  Basically any memory or subconscious process or belief that keeps us from being at our true and best self in the here and now can be eliminated by this process, and those events that initiated various negative Bach states of mind can be identified and overcome.

So, for example, you may realize upon examining your middle school experience (like I did) that it was a time in your life that you were acting acutely negative-Pine, beating yourself up and feeling like an awful person all the time because of it.  By examining this period in this way, you can (in your mind’s eye) label this experience as being simply the manifestation of a negative Bach Remedy state, and not a true representation of who you really are/were, and not a deserving experience to have had.  It also helps you to see how you could have acted differently, thus learning from the experience and seeing things from a fresh perspective.

This Bach-mental framework exercise and corresponding emotional reappraisal can have huge and lasting impacts all by itself.  The Remedy tracking sheet is just a visual aide that can help to ensure you take the time to look at every emotional angle of the situation, and also to mentally (once again in your mind’s eye, or on the paper if you prefer) mark out where that emotion was in the scheme of things.  Doing this–combining the emotional reexperience with the objective/mental task of evaluating where that behavior would fall on the Bach Remedy scale–seems key in reappraising your past self, releasing the emotion, and moving forward with a new understanding, more freedom, and more compassion for yourself.  It’s like you are being reborn into the new you, without the emotional burden of past negative experience holding you down, but with the wisdom of having learned from the experience anyhow.  Taking the corresponding Bach Remedy for particularly powerful emotions/feelings that come up during the process can help speed the process of change even more, as well as providing support and relief.

Any stressful or emotional time in the past–be it one day or an entire period in your life spanning months or even years–is a prime target for this sort of approach.  Any current feelings should be addressed as usual, of course, but it’s amazing how much the past can bring us down and continue to affect us long after something occurred.  This technique can eliminate those feelings incredibly quickly and fully, and allow us to better become the happy and joyous and wonderful people we are meant to be.

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Bach Remedy Progress Tracking Chart

Below is a link to a PDF of a simple Bach Remedy progress tracking chart I made up.
It can be useful for tracking your progress over time with the Bach Remedies; identifying blind spots in treatment; or simply establishing a baseline with which to measure future growth, since it’s easy to lose track of how we used to feel as progress is made during treatment.

It is best when printed out on the “landscape” setting, and you just need to fill in however many bars (in the positive or negative direction) that you feel currently corresponds to your mental outlook and feelings.  You don’t need to be too precise, of course.  But doing it can be helpful in making yourself stop long enough to really evaluate how you are feeling in terms of each different Bach Remedy state of mind.  Otherwise it can be easy to get stuck focused only on a few Bach Remedy states, or to not even really consider some of the more obscure or seemingly-less relevant mental states to your everyday thoughts and feelings (that might still be greatly affecting you).  Just redo the form every so often so as to visually see how your thoughts and feelings have changed over time.

I have also included a picture of a sample one that has been filled out, just to show how it might work.

Hope it helps!

p.s. this particular chart is only really helpful if you already know what each state is for, of course.  Though you can certainly read each Bach Remedy description as you fill it out, which may be a good way to learn them, as well.

Tracker Chart PDF download link:

Bach Remedy Chart Tracker

Example of it filled out:

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Don’t be afraid to experience joy and happiness and all the positive states of mind the remedies bring about.  They are what makes us healthy, and are what we are “supposed” to be feeling!

By Popular Demand…Positive Essence Aspiration Chart!

I thought I had actually posted this like three months ago, but apparently not!  Anyhow, many people express not liking having to think of the negative-sides of the Bach Remedies when deciding which ones to take.  Though this might indicate Agrimony to some extent, it also makes sense to focus on the quality you want to develop as opposed to the one you are trying to get rid of.  So, to that end, please see the attached chart!

Keep in mind, though, that by only looking at the positive-side of these states that it can be a bit hard to figure out exactly which one to take (as opposed to when looking at the negative indications).  This is because many states of mind, and hence essences, can help you get to that positive state of mind–i.e. there are five that can make you free of fear, and hence courageous and brave (Mimulus, Red Chestnut, Aspen, Rock Rose, and Cherry Plum).  So, caveat emptor, and I hope it helps!

Click the link below to access the pdf:

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My Current Thoughts On Reincarnation

I never really believed in reincarnation all that much, though now I am a firm believer.  I say this because I have seen for myself people that I knew who died reincarnated into their new forms.  I wouldn’t have believed this even all that long ago, but now I just know/feel it for a fact—what Dr. Bach might have referred to as a guiding signal from your Higher Self. I know, the scientific part of me would of course demand firm proof—though that I cannot give.  But when looking at the new person in front of me I know/can see/it all seems so obvious that they are in fact that other person reincarnated into a new form.  And hence the reason for this blog post: to discuss/speculate about what this all means in terms of a broader outlook on life in general, and love and what it means to have family, parents, children, loved ones, and so forth.

I should start by saying that my current worldview is—basically speaking—that there are such things as spirits or individual souls or whatever you might want to call them/identify them as being.  I feel that there are also our specific bodies, the physical world, of course, that these spirits occupy and call home for some specified period of time.  Nothing too unexpected or unusual with that belief—and one very much in keeping with Dr. Bach’s view of the universe, for what that’s worth, where he talked about spirits inhabiting bodies here on earth in order to grow and to reach perfection.  It also helps set up a world-view where we must think about the future of our earth, societal fairness, our bodies, etc, because it is the way this spiritual/mental world can interact with the physical—and we shouldn’t wreck it, or we’d be stuck solely in the spiritual realm for some unspecified period of time as a result, or somehow less able to articulate our being in the physical world than we could otherwise.

But having felt the loss of someone I love and cared very deeply for, and then to see them reincarnated in a new form has left me with all sorts of strange feelings and questions that make me wonder even more deeply what it means to love, to share a life with someone, and what is a real “soul” feeling and what is just a feeling of my body, perhaps due to evolution, or as a different (but just as “real”) part of myself that only lasts for this lifetime—and doesn’t necessarily carry on like the essential being or soul does.

I say this because when this person was alive I had a definite relationship with them, one of love and joy and respect, one that guided and shaped me in so many ways and that I so identified with on so many levels.  Now, in their new child form, I wonder if that part of me that still yearns for that parental role they served—their approval, validation, and love that I have missed since they died—is just a vestige, if you will, of my physical material side—like an animal connection based solely on the body I happened to be born into, shaped by physical factors that led it to feel that way in the first place.

Since this person is now alive in a new form I feel I should rejoice heavily at that fact, and what it means for the universe—but I also am left kind of feeling like that part of me that loved and needed them so strongly was simply some physical component to my being designed for survival.  Did I feel that love so intensely simply because I was born into their family, for physical/DNA reasons alone, or is it from the fact that they were the person that they were?  Is it some sort of physical trick to keep us all together, or something more spiritual based on love?

And what if they don’t really care for me now?  Was it all just an illusion?  Or is that familial connection just the way we most feel that spiritual union with others that we might otherwise all feel so intensely with everyone when in the spiritual realm?  (Is romantic love similar in that it allows us to feel a unique connection with others that we might otherwise feel with many beings under different circumstances?)  Is it just a factor of time spent together?

It’s a bit strange to think, too, that the new person is now loving their new family just as much as they did their old family, and that they are just as real as that new (different) person as they ever were as that previous person—so how can I claim our love/family was somehow different or more special, or that their previous life-form was the “real” them?  They certainly seem happier and better off now than towards the end of their previous life, as well, so that is yet another reason to be happy for them (and that makes it harder to grieve the fact that their old form died, and to wish things had turned out differently and that they had lived longer—which now just seems selfish on my part, seeing how happy and loved and vibrant they are today in their new life).

Also, some traits are clearly so similar and unique and definitely that person, others—such as their gender—are completely different.  But it is still them.  I know that in my heart for a fact.  So what does that mean—what part was “them” and what part was their body?  Should I stop grieving for the person that died, happy that they are now alive somewhere else?  Should I grieve for that synergistic being that is no more, and for my changed circumstance—and also be happy for this new synergistic being that has taken their place?  Am I sad partly because it will now be many many years before the new person could communicate with me on the same level that the old person could?  Has that person just been effectively taken out of this lifetime’s conversation, as it were, and now I know I will never really be able to form as close a relationship with them as I did growing up, or to be able to communicate ideas with them on a deeper level like I once could so easily?

Or is that just how life works—we keep taking care of each other, shifting bodies as ours wear out/pass on?  And do the spirits choose the body they will inhabit—trying to stay close to the ones they just left in many cases?  What if your parent is now a child, or a friend’s child—how much of your relationship/love/feeling was based on parental roles and what was a different, more spiritual, form of love and connection?

And what does that mean for romantic love—what if the person you now are in love with was once your parent or child or sibling or friend?  It might be a bit of a cliche, but isn’t there a certain ick factor involved if that is the case?  Do we often get stuck with people (as couples) we aren’t really romantically attracted to just because spiritually we were close to each other in a past life, and feel that influence wanting to keep us close together again?  What part is familiarity and platonic love, and what part of that relationship is the “chemistry” our (physical) bodies want/need in this lifetime to do their physical thing?

More generally, how does a specific spirit physically impact the shape/form/expression of the body they are inhabiting?  What if the child looks far different than their parents, but like their old selves—is it because they are a spirit that just naturally looks that way, or innately has those certain kind of traits, affecting their body to some high degree?  Is it just past-life energetic carry-over from the form they took helping program their appearance into their new body (perhaps due to their mental/spiritual outlook affecting physiological processes, perhaps even epigenetic ones)?

Are names something implicit to our spirit, too, because (in certain cases, at least) a spirit can have similar sounding (but different gendered) names in two different lives?  Is a psychic connection with the inhabiting spirit how we often name babies in the first place?

Anyhow—just some of my thoughts as of late.  Not really all that Bach-related, but still felt like putting them out there anyway, for what they’re worth (if only just to think about them for myself).

Happiness Study

You might have seen in the news lately a large study that showed that “happiness” did not predict future mortality rates, and many people concluded from this that our thoughts have no effect on our health.  (http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/12/151210031212.htm)  Nothing could be further from the truth!  In this study, we see an overly-broad word being applied–one that could conceivably incorporate many different types of health-supporting or health-damaging emotions–and the researchers then making large sweeping conclusions based off of that fact.

For example, one of the “happiest” times of my life, in terms of shear enjoyment in the moment, might have been that year I spent the entire summer literally on the couch, with the shades drawn, watching satellite TV and drinking huge bottles of Sunkist and eating all manner of junk food, with no physical activity to speak of–other than going to the fridge to get more food.  What a great time for  me as a child!  But it was also probably the least healthiest time of my life, one filled with nothing but negative-Bach states of mind and numerous health problems.  If someone in a similar position had been included in the study, their report of happiness would include some seriously unhealthy physical conditions, the direct result of the very things that caused that “happiness” in the first place.  Conversely, when I was dieting and exercising later on in my life, it was certainly tough work and difficult (and seemingly thankless at times), and I wasn’t necessarily “happy” about all that work and effort, but I was certainly healthier.

Dr. Bach discovered there were 38 specific types of thoughts that damage our health and, conversely, 38 types of outlooks that support our health.  When viewed in those terms it becomes easy to see how by using the word “happiness” as a measure, it is far too easy for researchers to reach the false conclusion that the mind has no real effect of our health–since it isn’t nearly a specific-enough indicator, and can easily incorporate negative-Bach states of mind under the label “happiness”–i.e. negative-Chicory selfishness and attention seeking behavior (which can become addictive and highly enjoyable when being validated by others, but could still negatively affect our health).  Similarly, greedy/negative-Holly-like materialism can also be personally satisfying (even thrilling) while in that mode, leading us to feel a form of “happiness”, though it could still be destructive to our long term health and (possibly) longevity, and is certainly damaging to others overall.

By grouping negative-Bach states of mind under the heading of happiness–and possibly positive-Bach states of mind such as positive-Agrimony under the heading of unhappiness (since it can be painful in the moment to dig through painful memories and experiences, even if long term it leads to real and greater happiness)–it’s no surprise that the results of this particular study sort of canceled each other out and no real result could be found in terms of our thoughts affecting our health or longevity–because the very thoughts that lead to health or disease had been lumped together on both sides of the aisle, in terms of happiness and unhappiness, skewing the results.

By narrowing in on the specific Bach states of mind, positive and negative, clearer results could conceivably be obtained by researchers in this case (and others).  But the statement that our health is not in the least dependent on our thoughts is certainly incorrect, as a large body of scientific evidence (i.e. the effects of the stress response; psychoneuroimmunological research showing an effect on our immune system based on certain emotions, such as anger; and the effect of loneliness on the expression of our DNA) shows that our mind can and does directly affect our health, and vice versa.

This is one of those cases of the media running with a story without really examining the study itself, or the design flaws inherent in the study, that would then lead to overly-broad conclusions being drawn from it.  If anything, this study only shows that the word “happiness” is too broad a label to apply when it comes to determining which thoughts affect our health!

A Bach “Healing Mandala” That I Made for a Class Of The Same Name

Anyhow–my life in biographical/pictorial form!  (Via representations of the negative states of Bach Remedies I experienced over the years–started to peter out around the uncertainty remedies (regarding pictures), and thanks and all due credit to the various Bach Flower images and other pictures I found online to make it possible).  Some of the pictures make sense only to me, of course, as it is personal–but proud of it at the time (and still am–I made it for a class summer 2014), and wanted to get it up here just to have it online!

(note tiny mirror that fell off of the Crab Apple section…)Healing Mandala Bach Project